Supporting Your Child with T1D When They’re Left Out of Playdates and Sleepovers

As a parent of a child with Type 1 Diabetes (T1D), one of the toughest things to see is when your child feels left out- especially when it comes to playdates, sleepovers or any activity that might seem “normal” for other children. But don’t worry! There are ways you can help your child feel included, supported and confident while managing their diabetes.

Here are a few fun, practical and supportive tips to help you navigate these situations and ensure your child still has the opportunity to make memories and form lasting friendships- diabetes or not!

1. Start the Conversation Early

The key to making your child feel comfortable and confident during a playdate or sleepover is communication- both with your child and the host parents. Let your child know that it’s okay to talk about T1D and that they can ask for help when they need it. Empower them to explain their diabetes to others in a way they feel comfortable- whether it’s a simple, “I need to check my blood sugar sometimes,” or a bit more detail. You can practice with them at home, so they feel more confident explaining things like checking blood sugar or needing to eat something at certain times.

It’s also important to chat with the hosting parents. Keep it simple but clear- let them know the basics, like recognising a hypo, when your child might need a snack and how to contact you, if needed. Most parents will be happy to help, they just need a bit of guidance!

2. Pack a Handy T1D Kit

Making sure your child has everything they need will help them feel more independent and put the host parents at ease. A small bag with essentials can include:

• Glucose tabs or a small juice box (for lows)

• Insulin and testing supplies

• Snacks that fit their routine

• A note with key information and your contact details

If it’s a sleepover, chat with your child about when to check their levels and how to handle any changes overnight. You can even have a quick check-in via text before bed if that helps them feel more confident.

3. If it’s Easier, Be the Host!

If you and your child feel more comfortable having playdates at your own home, then go for it! Hosting means you can manage diabetes care more easily, while your child gets to enjoy time with friends without the extra worry.

There’s no shame in choosing what works best for your family. Whether it’s a simple afternoon playdate or an exciting sleepover, having it at your house allows you to keep an eye on things while ensuring your child feels included and at ease.

4. Find Diabetes-Friendly Activities

Not all playdates or sleepovers have to be centered around food! Help yoru child find activities that they can enjoy without worrying about their blood sugar levels. Some fun ideas include:

• Arts and crafts: A creative activity can keep them busy and engaged

• Outdoor adventures: Hiking, biking or even a nature scavenger hunt- these activities will keep them active and distracted.

• Movie nights with popcorn

• Games and puzzles: Board games, video games, or building a fort with pillows can be a great way for them to bond with their friends.

If food is part of the plan, you can send along a suitable snack or discreetly chat with the hosting parent about options that fit your child’s routine. Most parents will appreciate the heads-up and be happy to accommodate.

5. Encourage Independence and Confidence

Your child may feel anxious about being the “different” one when it comes to managing their diabetes during social activities. This is where you can help them develop confidence. Instead of focusing on what they can’t do, encourage them to see what they can do.

Let them know that managing their diabetes is just another part of who they are, but it doesn’t define them. Help them realise that their friends might not even notice the differences- what’s important is the fun they’re having together.

At the same time, teach your child how to take charge of their own diabetes care. It’s empowering when they feel confident checking their blood sugar or making sure they have snacks on hand. The more independent they are, the more self-assured they will feel in social settings.

6. Teach Friends & Parents the Basics

Helping other parents and friends understand diabetes can go a long way in making social situations easier. Encourage your child to explain things in a simple way, like:

• “I just need to check my blood sugar sometimes.”

• “If I feel wobbly, I might need a snack.”

• “My mum or dad is always on the phone if I need them.”

For parents, a quick chat about recognising a hypo and what to do in an emergency can be reassuring. You don’t need to overwhelm them- just the key points so they feel prepared.

7. Lead with Positivity

Your attitude shapes how your child feels about diabetes. If they see you treating it as a normal part of life, they’re more likely to do the same. Celebrate their independence, reassure them they can handle social situations, and remind them that diabetes doesn’t stop them from having fun- sometimes, it just means a little extra planning!

Final Thoughts

Feeling left out is tough for any child, but with the right support, your little one can fully enjoy playdates and sleepovers just like their friends. With confidence, preparation and a positive mindset, diabetes won’t be a barrier- it’ll just be one small part of their big adventure.